How To Build Your Self-Confidence

Knowingly or unknowingly, your self-confidence is a big determiner of how far you perform in all areas of your life- school, family, career, and so on. This is why building your self-confidence is one of the best gifts you can ever give yourself.

Blake Lively was right when she said, ‘The most beautiful things you can wear is confidence.’

Before I enlighten you on how you can improve your self-confidence, let me briefly explain the word self-confidence first.

We can define self-confidence as your belief or perception of how good or skillful you think you are at a particular thing (be it a hobby, career, or any activity whatsoever). However, this doesn’t mean your perceptions are right. In other words, when your self-confidence is low about a thing, you tend to believe you’re not good at that thing, but when you have high self-confidence, it means you believe you’re very good at that particular thing – whether you’re right or wrong. Are you getting the concept yet?

In addition, if you are a Self-confident person, then you are admired by a lot of people. You can see that they would start to envy you and that’s because a lot of  People are struggling hard to achieve self-confidence. Hence, it turns to be a vicious cycle, wherein they become a failure to achieve success. Self-confidence helps you as  an individual to work at ease and builds trust and inspiration amongst the people who are in connection.

How people see and perceive your abilities begin with how you perceive them yourself. And that’s where the phenomenon of self-confidence comes to play. Therefore, it doesn’t matter how good you are if you don’t believe in yourself, no one will believe in you, even If they try to.

The level of your self-confidence affects your life more than you may realize. For instance, if you have a speech to deliver and you already imagine yourself mincing your words, even if you have the right words to say, your quality of delivery will be poor as a result of your low self-confidence in your speech-giving performance. You may not know this, but confidence is an aura that people can perceive even from a far distance. The question now is, how do you make them perceive a high one?

There are instances wherein a talented person rarely comes up with ideas because they struggle to raise their voice in the meetings. Hence, gaining confidence turns to be the key to success. This article would help you with the steps to follow to enhance your self-confidence and maintain the glory with joy.

6 Ways To Build Your Self-Confidence

Below are the 5 basic ways to improve your self-confidence and ultimately your life in general.

Practice Positive Daily Affirmations ;

You are what you say to yourself. The words that depart from your mouth will either build or break you. Do you want to boost your self-confidence? Start by uttering confidence-boosting words to yourself. Examples of positive words you should say are, ‘I am confident, I am capable, I can do this, I am the best, I love me.’

A good time to practice this is when you wake up and before going to bed. Remember, you have to be consistent with it and believe in its manifestation. By practicing these daily affirmations, you can block negative thoughts – a major self-confidence destroyer- while welcoming positive ones.

Stop comparing yourself with others.

If there’s a faster way to destroy your self-confidence, it is through the simple act of comparison. Nowadays, Social networking sites create a lot of impact on us. While surfing through the social media, we see what our friends fare in their daily life and so we start to compare ourselves with their status and begin to envy them. But what you fail to understand is no one posts their struggle or sad stories. Researchers find the experience of envy creates dissatisfaction within ourselves.

This thought process erodes our confidence we start drawing comparisons. Thus, in reality, neither is it a healthy process nor turns to be helpful for us to run the race. We should never consider life as a competition and, we should run our race.

Take Care Of Your Physical Appearance

Did you know that your level of self-confidence is greatly affected by how you look? Now, this has nothing to do with body shaming because sometimes we’re responsible for our appearance. What do you wear? Are they comfortable? What do you eat? Are they healthy?

Imagine having to give a public speech, you walk to the podium, about to begin your speaking only to start adjusting your dress because it’s just too tight and you’re afraid of wardrobe failure. Certainly, you’d be more concerned about the dress than you will be about your speech. Which only means one thing, your chances of giving a commendable speech is undoubtedly low.
Moreover, abusing the body would never make you feel good. According to various studies, it is necessary to get engaged in physical activity to boost our self-confidence. Exercise always helps to feel good physically and, it develops confidence within yourself.

Exercise Self-compassion 

When you start practicing self-compassion, your life becomes more manageable. You should treat yourself with kindness and prevent yourself from harshness. Self-compassion plays a crucial role when you fail or experience a mistake. Consider yourself as your trusted friend and communicate with yourself during any hard time. Instead of complaining and blaming yourself, you should understand that no one is perfect. Remember there’s a saying that goes, ‘Confidence is not ‘they will like me. Confidence is ‘I’ll be fine if they don’t’.

Develop your Body Language

Body language helps in exploring yourself to feel good and develops self-confidence. You should adopt an open posture and put yourself upright with your hands by your sides. It is a crucial point as it communicates your desires.

Your body language helps to indicate your willingness to communicate with others. It projects a positive image and helps in improving self-confidence.

Do Things That Intimidate You

One bold action that can build your self-confidence is trying out new things, especially things that scare you. Self-confidence often gets better when you push yourself to do things that you normally won’t because you’re uncertain of what the outcome will be.

For instance, if you have stage fright, try putting yourself in situations that warrant public speaking; or if you’re terrible at playing the guitar, you will only learn by actually doing it not by mere desiring to learn. So go out there, leave your comfort zone, because confidence isn’t built there, on the contrary, that’s where they die.

In conclusion,

when you have strong self-confidence, you not only know what you want but what you don’t want, and you’re bold enough to stand on it. You set boundaries and stick to them regardless of who opposes it. No one gets to push you around like a trolley. You do you and that’s all that matters to you. Now, isn’t that a trait you’d like to possess?

Follow the above tips and watch the amazing turnaround you’ll begin to experience in your life.