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4 tips on how to conquer fear

February 9, 2021Ayobiojo Mayowa

How to Conquer Fear and see desired results?

To conquer fear, you need to understand it and embrace it. It might sound opposing the popular idea that you need to run away from fear, but you need to embrace it. That is the first step in conquering fear. A warrior does not win his battle because he doesn’t feel fear, he wins because he masters his fear.

What is Fear?

Fear is an emotion evoked by the experience or anticipation of a traumatic experience. You do not have to be the one the experience is happening to before you feel fear. You must have watched a horror movie at least once. While watching, you realized that you were as apprehensive s those characters in the film. Not because what was in pursuit of them would get you (you aren’t in the movie), but because you were witnessing their trauma, you felt their emotions.

Therefore, it is a natural feeling. It helps you decide if a situation warrants your fight or flight. Your decision to either run or face your fears determine if you will get the desired result.

 

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Why is Fear Detrimental to Achieving your Goal?

One would think since fear is a natural thing, it should help us become better and survive. Yes, it does help us survive. However, its role in nature never goes beyond survival. It does nothing to help you hone the skills that make your livelihood better.

A hunter who seeks to take a game home but encounters a group of wild cats with all of their attention on him will not attempt to kill any. He will instead run for his dear life. He will not achieve his goal for that day if he is unlucky to find a lone animal.

Here are some reasons fear is detrimental to your goal.

Improper Focus on Processes

Fear is a survival tool, and it gets in the way of attention. When you have it, you use your peripheral vision more than your focus vision. This means you need to see a little sign of danger, and you change direction away from the threat.
Working on a project when you dread failure might lead you to a predictable failure since your mind wasn’t fully in it.

Misjudgment of little details

Some details that are hard to notice will escape you because of fear – omitting a screw, not adding all the necessary ingredients in a mixture, forgetting to add a clause in the contract you are preparing. All these are little details that may bring the project crashing down.

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Quit project

When you notice these missing details, you are to abandon the project for fear of having to start all over again. Dread leads to an eventual behavioral change; in this case, it could well be quitting. Another behavioral change could be giving excuses so as not to encounter your fright.

How to Conquer Fear

Now that you know how fear can mar your progress in achieving your goals, there are ways you can conquer it. For some of you, your goal is not monetary. It could be on self-development, like losing some weight before a certain time of the year or improving your social life. These tips on how to conquer it work in all situations.

Admit to Your Fear

We often like to hide our fear behind excuses disguised to appear as being careful. This is one of the ways to live a lie. Some people even go as far as using other people’s safety not to take specific vital actions. While that is an admirable thing if it were true, you must check yourself. Are you careful or anxious about how you might fail?

Be Brave in the Face of Fear

It takes courage to fight instead of fly when fright kicks in. It takes some bravado to go against your instinct to run when faced with danger. When you feel fear creeping in, choose to stay and face it. If you fail at conquering it, you will learn the invaluable lesson that your worries aren’t so big.

Use Fear as a Jump-Start

While fear will hold you back from taking the necessary actions, use it to your advantage. Use that feeling as a cue to start doing that which you’re scared of doing. If you have to increase your resistance weight in the gym and you’re scared you’ll do an unimpressive number of reps, do it anyway.

Let Fear excite you

Nothing beats the rush that comes with the conviction that you will do what you dread. In your head, a voice is screaming, “Don’t do it!” but in your mind, you’re telling yourself the opposite. The moment you take that leap and engage in that activity you’re scared of, you get excited. Focus on that excitement and let it propel you to act against it.

 

Conclusion

Fear is a natural emotion that is brought on by previous experiences. It is sometimes learned and can be conquered if you do the first step. Admit to it. The strongest hold back to conquering it is deceiving yourself about it.
Let your fright excite you so much that it pushes you to act against it.

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