How to deal with a Dysfunctional Family

A family is an essential part of everyone’s life. A family builds a person’s character, lifestyle, and habits. Your emotions and personality describe which kind of family you belong to. As there are people with different personalities, in contrast, there are different types of families in the world. The people, who are down the track, have low self-esteem and are going through several issues and tensions of life then it is possible they would be suffering from a Dysfunctional family. A toxic family that doesn’t seem to fulfill their emotional and physical needs.

Moreover, they don’t think it’s a useful tactic to share their current unfortunate situation with anyone. Because its their “family” after all. By doing this, they make the situation even worse for themselves and are drawn into self-defeating and self-destructive behavior patterns without understanding the reason behind it.

Are you suffering from a dysfunctional family? Going through several issues in life wants to fight against them but don’t have any strategy to cope with them. Are things getting worse and worse day by day, and looking for proper guidance on dealing with them efficiently?. Then you don’t need to take any worry.

This article will give some guidance and ideas on how to deal with a dysfunctional family. Try to follow them and don’t let others to make your life disturb.

Break your eternal silence and talk about the situation

Break the horror of talking about the situation in front of your family members. Share your feelings with your siblings and parents. Use I statements while talking. Politely convey your message so that they don’t think you are arguing with them. Like “I didn’t like when you cussed me. But I didn’t want to mention that because you were angry”. They will understand your point better and be ashamed of what they have done with you.

Try To Share Less About You

If you are often mistreated and accused because of your actions and sayings, try to have less interaction. Instead of thinking and blaming yourself because of their verbal behavior, engage yourself in several activities such as meditation and coping exercises. Be responsible and try to put yourself in other’s positions too, to understand better what’s going on.

Secure Yourself

For yourself, nothing is important than your life and wellbeing. If you feel insecure and have negative vibes in your mind that someone can hurt you in a dysfunctional family, contact authorities. Document the situation and its details so you can share it with the police.  If there is no possible way left to live with them, get your ways apart and take government shelter and security.

Engage Yourself In Coping Strategies

If you grew up and still live in a dysfunctional family, you are often going through unstable life conditions such as stress, anxiety, and tension. To fight against these unavoidable situations, you need to engage yourself in self-care and coping strategies. Experiment with a few until you’ve found what works best for you.

• Go for a walk and practice breathing techniques to relax your mind when you feel overwhelmed.
• Reach out to a counselor or therapist if you need extra support.
• Listen to a soothing playlist to bring yourself back to a calm state.
• Try progressive muscle relaxation to release physical tension in your body.
• Spend some time with animals. They are natural stress relievers.
• Plan a fun activity to do after an intense interaction with your family members.
• Avoid focusing on negative thoughts and practice the ways to consume positivity in yourself.